Sometimes you feel like you’re drowning in front of everyone but no one sees it. You feel despondent, depressed and crushed and your only dream is that you never wake up from your sleep the next morning. I know pain and it does not feel good. Pain swallows your power and will to survive in life sometimes. The hard truth is, you can never get past the pain that consumes you without dealing with its roots first.
Suffering abuse while young makes you feel broken for life. It leaves a mark that cannot be erased. The good thing is, you get to turn that brokenness into some sort of power. This power will help you to protect yourself from breaking others. There are many kinds of abuse. Enlightening you on some of the kinds of abuse will help you deal with your issues.
10 Types of Abuse
Financial or material abuse
What You Should Know
Research shows that a wide percentage of people all over the world suffer most of these types of abuse. They go through a series of events and happenings that affect them in many ways. Unfortunately, most people are not able to identify the root of their pain so they cannot address them. According to therapists, the best way to deal with a problem is to deal with the root cause of the problem.
My story of abuse surrounds psychological abuse, discriminatory abuse and neglect. Growing up I had people around me instilling so much fear in me due to constant domestic violence at the external family home from which I grew. I remember being locked in a room one for a while young. My screams and cry meant nothing. That feeling of helplessness alone is derailing enough to kill your soul. I had people shaming me because of the colour of my skin. For some reason, I was dark while young. It felt like nothing but my therapist tells me it broke something in me.
Neglect is my worst pain. Not being seen as enough for someone makes you feel like nothing. Because of my experience of neglect, I lived most of my life seeking validation from people. I had the impression that I was not worthy of a lot of things. I could not accept love from other people because I felt I was not worthy of it. I kept ending relationships because of this vulnerability and maybe some exes will read this and understand why besides their shitty attitudes.
Giving Yourself A Chance
Point is, I had a great turn in my life recently and I am proud of myself because I feel so much better now. This turn began as I was confronted with health issues. I realised that all I had was myself at the end of the day and I had to be there for myself. My state of mind and psychological health immensely improved when I adopted a lot of “me” times. My therapist once told me that it seemed I gave out so much love and received very little in return which was true. I decided to be selfish enough to love myself and to appreciate my existence more.
Riding yourself from the pain that is so deep into you is the hardest thing to do on earth, however, when you become free, it is extremely rewarding. My strength as a person comes from all my painful experiences and I hope this piece helps people to make bold decisions to be there for themselves and turn their painful experiences into their strength.
Many times I have doubted you, your strength and your ability to withstand all the pressure around you. Sometimes, I wonder while you’re still here. It is astonishing how you manage to navigate through the hard times. I can see that giving up is not an option for you.
Sometimes, It marvels me how the pain, confusion, frustration and rejection does not kill you. At other times, I’m just blown at the number of times you’re able to overcome. If I could give you another name, I would call you a rock.
I wouldn’t be with any other person but you. You are destined to survive and you do it effortlessly. While others give up to depression and suicide. You chase smiles and embrace your fears. You’re passionate about your survival.
Even on your worst days and greatest pain. You create a cloud of love around you. You shield the people you love from the fire than consumes you from the inside. You impress me with your might and will. Time and time again you make me realize, that mediocrity can’t stay where greatness is!
The novel Coronavirus pandemic has unleashed a series of unexpected events that have altered our lives and how society is conducted completely. Even though many organizations prepare for crises, most if not all organizations certainly failed to prepare for this challenging pandemic period. The loss of lives, property and livelihood has taken a heavy toll on political economies, organizations and individuals. As many organizations have gone out of operation completely, others struggle to keep their operations running. According to the US Chamber of Commerce 24% of small businesses have completely shut down in America alone and this is a major setback for the business sector. The biggest question to answer is, what is the future of work? Between the total and partial lockdown periods, many organizational leaders have navigated their organizations through the pandemic. A series of patterns studied shows that, many reputable organizations like Deloitte, Nike, Coco-Cola and other renowned organizations have adopted 3 phases to help withstand the pandemic. These are the most impressive crisis management techniques ever seen.
The first phase they adopted is to respond. Many businesses and institutions responded to the pandemic situation by making key decisions on health, safety, and the virtualization of work. This kind of response is the reason why some organizations are still operating. Most organizations quickly adopted safety measures like the provision of protective materials like nose masks to workers to keep them safe during the beginning of the pandemic. As the coronavirus escalated, companies closed and initiated the virtualization of work where social media platforms like zoom were greatly utilized for organizational meetings. This course of action helped organizations to manage the situation to ensure the continuity of their operations.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “our greatest glory is not in never failing, by it rising every time we fail”.The recovery process was adopted by organizations to emerge stronger than they were before the pandemic hit the world like a bolt of lightning. Organizations reflected on the situations, they recommitted themselves to their missions, reengaged their stakeholders, thought their decisions and rebooted their operations. Even though no recovery process is easy, these steps helped organizations to reestablish themselves in this pandemic period.
Since the coronavirus pandemic hit the world, there has been a great change in all activities. It is impressive how some organizations have prepared for and shaped the “new normal” to help them achieve their organizational goals. They have embraced new insights and capabilities with regards to social media and technology especially. Organizations that are thriving and plan to thrive in the future have adapted to new experiences, adjusted their goals, set new priorities and created new means of managing their operations through resilience.
What is The Future of Work?
The future of work after the coronavirus pandemic lies between three interconnected dimensions. These dimensions are the “work” which constitutes what an organization does, the “workforce” which encompasses who does the work and the “workplace” which is where the work is done. Analyzing these three dimensions answers the biggest question of what the future of work is.
The Work – What Can Be Automated?
Every organisation specializes in a particular area of service and the future of work demands that organisations quickly recognize the increasing automation of workplace activities. According to research, within the next 10 to 15 years, 80% of workplace activities will be completely automated and organisations must begin to identify which parts of their work can be automated for their benefit in the future.
The Workforce – Who Can Do The Work?
There are lots of technological advancements that companies must prepare for in the future and these advancements introduce new models for interaction between organisations, employees and their customers. For this reason, organisations must focus on recruiting employees who will be resourceful. Persons with extraordinary potential must be engaged to help fast track the achievement of organizational goals.
The Workplace – Where Can Work Be Done?
The future of work involves the combination of talent, workplace and technology. If there are any unintended results we have seen, it is the fact that the pandemic period has increased productivity immensely as we see the human potential at it’s best. Employees working remotely from home has forced the extension of working hours which has optimized productivity. Organizations must record these patterns to decide where work can be done best for their benefit in the future.
The reality is that the coronavirus pandemic has escalated the future of work. However, the vision of all organizations should be directed towards the humanization of the future of work. Obviously, the vision of the future of work we have created is very different from the reality of the future of work where automation is highly engaged. A human approach to the future of work must be adopted. This means creating a human essential workplace in the future rather than focusing completely on technology and its impact. Organizations must direct resources in enhancing the capabilities of the workforce to suit the future of work.
What Can Be Done To Shape The Future of Work?
Organizations can start shaping the future of work by adopting a new mindset. Humanizing the future of work must be prioritized. This can be done by humanizing technology itself to unleash the potential in the workforce. Instead of isolating the workforce from technology, building capability access strategies that will foster the collaboration of both human and technology will help achieve results we have never seen. Organizations can evolve with dynamic stability to thrive in the future of work only if they build resilience and capitalize on their abilities after the pandemic.
You sheepishly getting involved with some random dude and ending up pregnant accidentally doesn’t make it the end of the world. Or you slipping off into your bad addictions like alcoholism doesn’t make you a failure. The most important thing is picking yourself up after making a mistake and purposing to do the right thing. Everybody makes mistakes! Everyone surrounding you including the people who judge you make mistakes. Your mentor makes mistakes, same as your Pastor. The beauty of it all is that they redeem themselves after those mistakes made so that they are able to get back on track in time.
Unfortunately, some mistakes are accompanied by heavy prices to pay and sometimes this becomes a hard blow to dodge, however, this is where you get to learn from those mistakes. Frank got his driver’s licence for the first time and his mom warned him never to drink and drive or over speed. In a quest to please his girlfriend he offered her a ride home after a party and as part of a show-off, he over sped on the road. A truck from nowhere crashed into the car and the girl lost her legs after the accident. Frank had to live with the guilt of being responsible for the girl’s disability forever.
On the bright side, he had learnt the hard way to desist from over speeding. People, the point is you don’t have to stay at that low point in your life forever! Getting out of your depression after making a mistake is the first step to redemption so make a decision today because the decisions you fail to make are eventually made for you! And sometimes the “made for you” decision may inconvenience you for the rest of your lives. Remember to avoid mistakes, however, if you make them, know that everyone makes mistakes!
You think of that situation where you have a pimple on your face and it swells and throbs so painful that you think it is going to explode? That’s you right there. Bottling up emotions, confusions, frustrations and pain results in a darker form of anxiety you might never escape from that is why it is important to tell your story. What is your story? Whatever it may be you should tell it, as it is. It might interest you to know that somebody wants to hear it and they are ready to be everything you want them to be for you. You might have your reasons for being discrete about your struggles because of past experiences of betrayal, mistrust and negation but there are billions of people and resources around besides the people who forsook you. A 13 years old girl was raped, which resulted in a delicate reproductive issue. She never had the courage to speak up and because she had neglected parents and the prey she fell victim to was family so she felt the worst kind of betrayal. She unconsciously assumed a gloomy and caged life and she eventually died one day throwing herself over a bridge. An autopsy report showed that she had been through traumatizing experiences like rape and she had died with a delicate reproductive issue. In our part of the world where parents are not friends and friendships have resorted to a competition, finding your safe space and a confidant whoever or whatever they may be would be a smart move. Tell us your story by sending it to the provided contact and join a society that wants to hear your story and be there for you!
People think of life in different ways. Some say its a race, others see it as a game. In some weird scenarios, people mistake life for a competition. The question here is “What do you think of life?” yes you!
Well, if you ask, I would say life is an adventure! I know you are well aware of what an adventure is but just so we are clear, an adventure is a happening involving lots of dangers and risks. That’s what my Merriam Webster dictionary tells me, you could check yours for a better understanding, either way, the point is, Life is an Adventure!
This project is inspired by my twenty-three years of life experiences and I’m positive you are guessing what I might have learned within just twenty-three years of life that is worth sharing. This is where I inform you that I’m not here to be an expert but I’m here to share common experiences we have and to encourage you so that we can all get through the shady adventures of life!
Missing even a post would be very unlucky so I really hope you stay tuned, comment and share such posts as we unravel the mysterious adventures of LIFE!