Happy Holidays – Resolving Resolutions

There are many things to be thankful for and one of those things is seeing the end of a year. Like many of you, Christmas is the most exciting time of the year for me. Nothing takes away the joy and chills that the holidays bring. Meanwhile, most people have been through awful ordeals during the course of the year which will make it almost impossible for them to enjoy the coming season. Well, Santa’s little elf – Asiedua is here to make all your bad memories go away – hihi.

It is true that the beginning of a matter is important however, the end of it is even more necessary. As we end the year, what we have to keep in mind is that we can make changes in our lives even before a new dawn comes upon us. What a man puts his mind to, he achieves, for that reason, it is good that we finish the year working harder to achieve resolutions we previously made to satisfy our needs and desires.

Being hard on yourself for the mistakes you have made in the past or throughout the year inhibits your ability to move forward entirely. You survived a bad relationship, move on! they fired you at the job, begin a new search, you miscarried twice, book a new appointment with a specialist, your business ideas failed, well grab a pen a paper and light a candle cause you’re gonna think of a new idea. What exactly I’m trying to say here is, DO NOT GIVE UP YET!

People!, don’t you dare give up on yourselves. You cannot keep piling up unresolved resolutions. You need to make them happen and you need to start now. I know that finding the strength to go back to the things you worked so hard for but failed at is not easy but I can assure you that it is always worth the try. When I wake up in the morning and I feel the morning breeze, it always reminds me that new is coming, better is arriving. If you have closed a chapter you have begun without finishing it, you have to revisit it and work hard to finish it now.

If you try hard to gather your thoughts and reorganize your agenda before the year truly ends, you will have even more things to be grateful for and the holidays will be much better for you. Life can be crazy and hideous but it is in times like the Christmas holidays that we see the beauty of life. If I were you, I would allow myself to assimilate enough of life’s beauty during the holidays. Holding onto things of the past, like pain, anger, frustration, unforgiveness, confusion, and others will only rob you of the joy of Christmas and the holidays.

Before I continue, can I just apologize for not bringing you motivation and inspiration in a while? My own inspiration for writing mostly comes from pain and I’ve not dealt with pain in a while thankfully lol. While we maneuver the holidays, we must do well to allow ourselves to stay happy and jolly. The true spirit of Christmas is found in happiness.

As the bells jingle and the halls decked with boughs of holly, you have to take in all the love you can get and recharge for the new year. It would also be a good time to dream about the things you would want to birth in the new year. I for one believe the coming year is going to be so good to us and from what I know, whatever a person believes in works from them. Do not forget to spread the joy you feel with your friends and family.

As I part ways, I would urge you to try your best to stay on Santa’s good side because he is watching, literally. Hydrate more while the harmattan approaches, ask someone for their Christmas gift wish, and make it come true. Sow a seed of joy in someone’s heart, you would be doing God’s work. Happy Holidays.

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Losing Hope Is The Beginning Of Death

If you have given up on everything including yourself, I’d like to remind you that you cannot stop living while you’re still alive! For quite a while now, I have struggled to write anything at all. This is because my life has been a roller coaster of emotions recently. For some of us, life is an endless test, and I honestly feel like I have already died many times before my time. Have you ever believed in something so much that you wake up every night praying for it to work and you do everything right to get it but end up being utterly disappointed before? Well, most of us have experienced this multiple times and that feeling breaks something in us and it robs us of our ability to hope again.

I live in numb days, days where I don’t want to feel anything or expect anything. I have adopted a new mindset, to live in the present expecting nothing and hoping for nothing. After all, what is the point of investing so much faith into something that is most likely to fail? The heartbreak is not worth my endurance.

While hope is a beautiful thing, many of us today have given up on it because we are literally bleeding from disappointment and failure. We do not wish to believe in anything again because we are afraid to be disappointed. I’m certain that 6 out of 10 readers of this blog can relate, however, can we all try one last time to hope again?

I have had limited experience with feelings of pleasure but what I know is that the sensation of hope offers unimaginable pleasure. The fact that you believe so much in that job, that relationship, that person or circumstance and you see it all working before it actually even happens can be thrilling. But some people have felt the pain of being disappointed so many times that they can literally feel it physically which makes them unable to hope again. One thing we must know is that hope keeps us alive and losing it is the beginning of our death.

Finding your way back to new hope is the most difficult thing to do. People have worked so hard on relationships that have failed, people have applied for a job so many times and they are still unemployed, some people battle with chronic illnesses that are eating them alive, and many of these people live in despair because they have lost their hope and cannot find their way back to it.

My business with you that day is to encourage you to hope one last time. Try a new relationship, apply for a new job, start a new business, run some new tests on your health situation, and believe that something will work for you this time and it will. If you have trouble coming out of your pain to hope again, just be reminded, that diamonds don’t shine until they’re buried alive. Don’t die while you’re still alive by losing your hope!

While you keep your hope alive and live your life as happy as you should, be reminded that depression and suicidal thoughts have no power over you. Allow your new hope to guide your new visions. Let your dreams live on through you and fix yourself by fixing your attitude towards the new beginning in your life. Cheers to new hope and a fresh start because it is always okay to start all over again regardless of how far you had gotten to.

The Mothers Who Became Fathers

In a world of men, it takes strong women to do what men do. Raising a child without a father makes you both a mother and a father. Arguing from this perspective of such a sensitive issue seems fair to me because a large percentage of women all around the world are burdened with the responsibility of being mothers and fathers at the same it.

I have always believed that the ability to easily multitask is no less than a gift from God himself. Yet, multitasking as a mother and father is a hard role to play in life. However this begins should never be the focus because life is full of crazy patterns but I believe we as a younger generation must encourage women who do it all alone and by themselves.

Today, women are using medical interventions to conceive their offsprings with the vision of raising their children alone. Even though this is a brave thing to do in my books. I believe the weight of living a life without a father is too heavy to carry. Fathers are important and every child must experience them.

It is very unfortunate that some men neglect the role of becoming fathers, yet, this mess births strong, phenomenal women who are forced to turn the world upside down to see their children succeed. Mothers who have to play fathers in this lousy world deserve to be honored on days like this. These mothers have to pay for accommodating their kids, hospital bills, their education and everything there is to do for a child.

Single mothers do not have many choices in life. They have to be there for their children whether there is support or not. What is more heartbreaking is the stereotypes they have to put with in society. However, they do it all without complaining and sometimes they even shield their kids from their pain. Many single mothers have to pay for college tuition and they just make it happen!

Two out of five people who read this blog today will identify with the situation of not having their fathers in the picture. Whether they lost them to death, separation of parents, or whatsoever means, their mothers have had to become strong pillars and rise to the patriarchal standards to secure a place for their children in this world. Some of these mothers work up to about three jobs in a day just to make ends meet. Some also have to raise their kids alone while pursuing their dreams which is almost impossible.

Fathers are amazing, well my Daddy is amazing. And I believe that mothers who have become fathers are even more amazing. Giving mothers who raise their children alone due honor is something we should normalize and never take for granted. Every woman who has lived as both a mother and father to their child is special.

As we celebrate fathers today, we celebrate the mothers who have become fathers too and I hope every woman struggling to play both roles knows and understands that they are the real geniuses around here. If your mother has become a father too. Let them know that you see them and let them feel celebrated. Happy Father’s Day to the mother who has become a father as well!

“Sometimes I get so tired I just want to walk away and keep walking but I just can’t.”

Single Mom

Living Life and Not Surviving It

Half of our lives have been nothing but charades. I think deep, so deep, and I can’t help but understand how we are unfortunately surviving life instead of living it. I believe most of us live in the most vulnerable and depressing days of our lives. Research actually shows that people between the ages of 20 and 30 feel this way. The feeling of struggle with literally everything never leaves and I cannot help but ask, how can we fix ourselves? Have you ever woken up in the morning and you feel like, “I am a total failure”, “Nothing good can happen to me”, “What if the world would be a better place without me”? This is the kind of feeling I’m talking about. Most of the time, we have trouble being happy about anything. It was almost like we would be punished for feeling the slightest of joy.

News Flash

All of the feelings of brokenness and unworthiness were all in my head. I woke up every day finding ways of surviving life instead of living it. I am a realist, and even though many of you might find it quite hard to admit it, you wake up the everyday day of your life surviving instead of living the good beautiful life you have been offered. The thing that bothers me the most is how you may never have the opportunity to relive your experiences. For this reason, we are about to break that shitty cycle of pity bullshit and live our lives being happy and joyful always instead of surviving each day.

Finding Your Purpose

More than once I have asked myself this question. What am I really here for? I believe that finding your purpose as an individual is the most challenging task in life. In a world where many things seem displaced, how can anyone find their real purpose to make them productive? While I struggle to place my fingers on the reason why I get to live each day, I believe it would be wise to be practical about everything and find how to stop the cycle of life surviving by living my purpose.

Trusting Your Instincts

One thing I never dare to relinquish in my thoughts is the fact that the truth is always inside me. Not once or twice, we all have come to crossroads in life and it is in those moments that we find direction from the inside. Whatever you do, there is always that feeling inside you that tells you whether to keep on or not. I suggest that you trust that instinct. It is that part of you that can show you the real purpose of your life.

Listening To People

Whether we like it or not, we live in very interactive societies. Making it a point to listen to what people have got to say to you or about you helps you to pick up very helpful cues of your life’s purpose. Seeing yourself in other people’s eyes helps to shape your life entirely and it gives you the rare opportunity to find yourself. In these very teachable moments, you would be relieved of the burden of struggling to live your life.

The Right Company

If you are surviving life instead of living it, it has probably got everything to do with the kind of people you are surrounded by. Don’t get me wrong, you do not have to hate anybody. Only, you have to find people who will help you live a good life instead of surviving it. It is very unfortunate how sometimes, the company that causes you pain is family, however, it is definitely possible to break free from anything. Let’s get real. People who do not give you the necessary attention you need, support you with their resources, especially money, and give you a reason to be better in life have to be replaced. This is the only way you can find your purpose to live a good life instead of surviving it.

Exploring Your Interest

The best part of life is doing exactly what you want to do especially when it is ethically right. Being authentic with the things you want to do gives you the opportunity to harness a certain type of power that is rare to come by. Learn how to go forward with your interests. Explore potential resources and give yourself a chance to find what you love to do. As people live in the shadows of their real dreams and aspirations. It would be naturally priceless to be able to enjoy what you truly want to do in other to upgrade from surviving to a more comfortable living situation.

Using The Compass

Now that we have established how we can live life instead of surviving it. We obviously have loads of work to do. We cannot be the same people anymore which literally means that we have no excuse to wake up every day feeling the way to used to feel. As I part ways with you ta day. I wish to let out to you something to fail to comprehend about your own self -“You Do Matter!”

Wine and Man, A Perfect Pair

The quality of life can be measured by many things, I sometimes measure the quality of life by a cold glass of good wine. In my opinion, life is really hard and the world is mostly a sad place. For this reason, cherishing the very little things that soothe our painful experiences is imperative.

For decades, the best of wine has been known to be made in France, but in my view, wine made in Bordeaux embodies perfection. As tradition meets modernity, winemakers in Bordeaux, France have adopted spectacular techniques that they use in making the finest wines the world has ever known.

Choosing A Wine

How do you choose your wine? Or when you are choosing a wine, how do you go about it? What goes on in your mind during the process? From dry white wine to red wine, each bottle offers you a heavenly experience and that is the reason why it is important to select a bottle of wine carefully. Choosing a wine is like choosing a date from a dating site. Bordeaux presents a variety of wines that you can luxuriously choose from.

THE VINTAGES

The Bordeaux vintage wines offer exceptional taste and quality. For instance, each bottle of ‘De Lux’- Bordeaux (dry white) -2019 is made up of a combination of tested ingredients. It offers a zesty, lively comforting taste. This particular bottle has an attractive floral, citrus crisp with a dry finish to it. It is infused with the aromas of peaches, white flower, and lemon and a glass of such wine make all days better.

Vintage Wine Catalogue

Red

  • Château Le Bédat – 2018
  • Château Peuy Saincrit – 2016
  • Tesco Finest Modéc – 2018

White

  • Château Puyanché – 2016
  • Tesco Bordeaux Blanc – 2018
  • Dourthe “Terroirs d’Exception” Roqueblanche – 2019
  • Château Perron – 2019
  • Mouton Cadet Blanc- 2019

“To take wine into our mouths is to savor a droplet of the river of human history”.

Colours

  • Red
  • Rosé
  • Dry white
  • Sparkling
  • Sweet white

Red Varieties

  • Cabernet Sauvignon
  • Merlot
  • Petit Verdot
  • Malbec
  • Cabernet France

Aromas

  • Violet
  • Blackcurrant
  • Strawberry
  • White flower
  • Lemon
  • Peaches
  • Citrus
  • Hazelnut
  • Red currant
  • Raspberry

Tasting Profiles

  • Supple and Fruity
  • Powerful and intense
  • Fresh and Full
  • Sparkling and Fruity
  • Crisp and Fruity
  • Luscious and Intense
  • Mellow and Fruity

Most of these wines can last for about 5 years and more. If served under the perfect temperature, the quality of it is never displaced.


Source: Bordeaux.com

April Fools Day – Pain Triggers

In our quest to excite ourselves we find ourselves hurting other people unconsciously. We break souls and bruise wounds out of mere jokes. And for what? To satisfy our little victories of seeing others feel bad, disgraced, ashamed or astonished.

In as much as I love April Fools day, I believe that just like any other day, it comes with a lot of responsibilities. These responsibilities are clearly not defined and I would like to help us all understand the responsibilities that accompany the April Fools day celebration.

The origin of April Fools day remains a mystery to many historians even though it has been celebrated for centuries. One would even say that the lack of origin contributes to some of the inappropriate ways of expressing or celebrating the day.

Taking into consideration how a person will react to your joke about issues of death, marriage, pregnancy, finances among many others is very important when pulling a joke on someone on April Fools day.

A young man decided to pull a break up a joke on his girlfriend on April Fools Day. He called her in the middle of the day and said to her that he couldn’t continue with their relationship any longer. The young lady unaware that it was a joke drove her car into a lake and drowned. How fun is this? The young man could never forgive himself for this! Funny enough, there are many other similar scenarios all over the world!

The reality is that, while April Fools Day is fun, it is accompanied by many implications that we avoid discussing. Some of these implications include;

Health implications

Psychological implications

Anxiety

Frustration

Others

So, while we are at it. Devising ways to improve April Fools day celebrations is primitive. Having an April Fools day different from the chaotic ones we have been having for centuries will be a great positive change for our current dispensation. Turning it into a day that will send love, hugs, joy and excitement towards people’s ways will help make the world a much better place.

Making April Fools day into a day devoid of drama can only happen if we all are more sensitive to other people’s feelings by perceiving the right things to say and do around them. It is never a bad thing to make a person laugh, cry or freak out during April Fools Day. However, is it worth the pain that people have to endure sometimes just so we are satisfied with ourselves? Have a wise April Fools Day! And “Welcome to the BEST month on the world’s calendar!” If you’ve got any reservations about my previous statement, in a funny voice, “kindly argue with yourself, thank you.”

Mediocrity Can’t Stay Where Greatness Is.

Dear Self,

Many times I have doubted you, your strength and your ability to withstand all the pressure around you. Sometimes, I wonder while you’re still here. It is astonishing how you manage to navigate through the hard times. I can see that giving up is not an option for you.

Sometimes, It marvels me how the pain, confusion, frustration and rejection does not kill you. At other times, I’m just blown at the number of times you’re able to overcome. If I could give you another name, I would call you a rock.

I wouldn’t be with any other person but you. You are destined to survive and you do it effortlessly. While others give up to depression and suicide. You chase smiles and embrace your fears. You’re passionate about your survival.

Even on your worst days and greatest pain. You create a cloud of love around you. You shield the people you love from the fire than consumes you from the inside. You impress me with your might and will. Time and time again you make me realize, that mediocrity can’t stay where greatness is!