Losing Hope Is The Beginning Of Death

If you have given up on everything including yourself, I’d like to remind you that you cannot stop living while you’re still alive! For quite a while now, I have struggled to write anything at all. This is because my life has been a roller coaster of emotions recently. For some of us, life is an endless test, and I honestly feel like I have already died many times before my time. Have you ever believed in something so much that you wake up every night praying for it to work and you do everything right to get it but end up being utterly disappointed before? Well, most of us have experienced this multiple times and that feeling breaks something in us and it robs us of our ability to hope again.

I live in numb days, days where I don’t want to feel anything or expect anything. I have adopted a new mindset, to live in the present expecting nothing and hoping for nothing. After all, what is the point of investing so much faith into something that is most likely to fail? The heartbreak is not worth my endurance.

While hope is a beautiful thing, many of us today have given up on it because we are literally bleeding from disappointment and failure. We do not wish to believe in anything again because we are afraid to be disappointed. I’m certain that 6 out of 10 readers of this blog can relate, however, can we all try one last time to hope again?

I have had limited experience with feelings of pleasure but what I know is that the sensation of hope offers unimaginable pleasure. The fact that you believe so much in that job, that relationship, that person or circumstance and you see it all working before it actually even happens can be thrilling. But some people have felt the pain of being disappointed so many times that they can literally feel it physically which makes them unable to hope again. One thing we must know is that hope keeps us alive and losing it is the beginning of our death.

Finding your way back to new hope is the most difficult thing to do. People have worked so hard on relationships that have failed, people have applied for a job so many times and they are still unemployed, some people battle with chronic illnesses that are eating them alive, and many of these people live in despair because they have lost their hope and cannot find their way back to it.

My business with you that day is to encourage you to hope one last time. Try a new relationship, apply for a new job, start a new business, run some new tests on your health situation, and believe that something will work for you this time and it will. If you have trouble coming out of your pain to hope again, just be reminded, that diamonds don’t shine until they’re buried alive. Don’t die while you’re still alive by losing your hope!

While you keep your hope alive and live your life as happy as you should, be reminded that depression and suicidal thoughts have no power over you. Allow your new hope to guide your new visions. Let your dreams live on through you and fix yourself by fixing your attitude towards the new beginning in your life. Cheers to new hope and a fresh start because it is always okay to start all over again regardless of how far you had gotten to.

Wine and Man, A Perfect Pair

The quality of life can be measured by many things, I sometimes measure the quality of life by a cold glass of good wine. In my opinion, life is really hard and the world is mostly a sad place. For this reason, cherishing the very little things that soothe our painful experiences is imperative.

For decades, the best of wine has been known to be made in France, but in my view, wine made in Bordeaux embodies perfection. As tradition meets modernity, winemakers in Bordeaux, France have adopted spectacular techniques that they use in making the finest wines the world has ever known.

Choosing A Wine

How do you choose your wine? Or when you are choosing a wine, how do you go about it? What goes on in your mind during the process? From dry white wine to red wine, each bottle offers you a heavenly experience and that is the reason why it is important to select a bottle of wine carefully. Choosing a wine is like choosing a date from a dating site. Bordeaux presents a variety of wines that you can luxuriously choose from.

THE VINTAGES

The Bordeaux vintage wines offer exceptional taste and quality. For instance, each bottle of ‘De Lux’- Bordeaux (dry white) -2019 is made up of a combination of tested ingredients. It offers a zesty, lively comforting taste. This particular bottle has an attractive floral, citrus crisp with a dry finish to it. It is infused with the aromas of peaches, white flower, and lemon and a glass of such wine make all days better.

Vintage Wine Catalogue

Red

  • Château Le Bédat – 2018
  • Château Peuy Saincrit – 2016
  • Tesco Finest Modéc – 2018

White

  • Château Puyanché – 2016
  • Tesco Bordeaux Blanc – 2018
  • Dourthe “Terroirs d’Exception” Roqueblanche – 2019
  • Château Perron – 2019
  • Mouton Cadet Blanc- 2019

“To take wine into our mouths is to savor a droplet of the river of human history”.

Colours

  • Red
  • Rosé
  • Dry white
  • Sparkling
  • Sweet white

Red Varieties

  • Cabernet Sauvignon
  • Merlot
  • Petit Verdot
  • Malbec
  • Cabernet France

Aromas

  • Violet
  • Blackcurrant
  • Strawberry
  • White flower
  • Lemon
  • Peaches
  • Citrus
  • Hazelnut
  • Red currant
  • Raspberry

Tasting Profiles

  • Supple and Fruity
  • Powerful and intense
  • Fresh and Full
  • Sparkling and Fruity
  • Crisp and Fruity
  • Luscious and Intense
  • Mellow and Fruity

Most of these wines can last for about 5 years and more. If served under the perfect temperature, the quality of it is never displaced.


Source: Bordeaux.com

Depression

I look around every day and I see a needy world. People exhibit so much neediness and sometimes it becomes uncontrollable. We find ourselves getting too attached or too detached from the things we love the most. We deflect onto others certain characteristics that sometimes place them in awe of what actually might be going on with us. The truth is, many of us find ourselves depressed yet we do not even know we are. In our part of the world, depression is seldom discussed. However, it is one of the most persistent ailments confronting the younger generation.

Whatever pain we think we feel, we walk amongst people who feel greater pain. Whenever I’m depressed, I feel like something has been taken away from me and I feel like I’m doing some sort of endless search for something that I most likely will not find. Dealing with depression is hard. It is like being tormented by your greatest fear. For me, it makes me shut down my feelings and it almost feels like I do not feel anything but emptiness. I’m sharing my experience so that you can have a picture of when you were depressed and properly define it for a remedy.

Characteristics That Show Depression

The Hermit

Like me, a hermit is a person who finds their home or place of residence as their safe haven when they are depressed. When they leave their home, they feel extremely out of place and they try to do everything in their power to return to their safe place. Being around people suddenly becomes exhausting for them.

Social Media Hookers

Some people drown themselves in social media when they are depressed. They most likely never log off at all. They just bury themselves in online shows, movies, Tv, and games and they simply avoid thinking of their real feelings to deal with them. What these people do not realize is that social media posts can trigger the phase they might be going through and even increase the weight of the depression they might be experiencing.

The Vampires

You know when you are very exhausted but you just cannot bring yourself to sleep? That is a sign of depression. You sit on your bed or sofa and just search for motivation to do plenty of things yet to no avail. This is because deep behind your mind lingers very negative thoughts that do not allow productivity. Such people never catch any sleep for themselves. They never do. They sit in the dark feeling empty and numb.

The Procastinators

Sometimes, our own thoughts scars the hell out of us. It creeps us out so much that we fear venturing them. Such people procrastinate beyond logic or reason because they feel like completing tasks require too much energy that they cannot afford to give.

The “Shut Outs”

This set of people shut people out completely when they are depressed. You see them plugging in their headphones and listening to loud music all the time and they avoid any kind of communication all together.

Fixing Us!

The one thing that I love about life is, nothing lasts forever. Depression is a silent, slow killer. Getting yourself out of depression takes a lot of hard work and I’m happy to tell you that you can do that hard work to stay healthy and productive. If you find yourself in any kind of situation and you identify with either of the mentioned characteristics. You certainly do not have to be worried.

All you have to do to fix yourself is to start exhibiting characters directly different from what you used to exhibit. Visit your doctor if you have to or speak to a Therapist to help you navigate through the things you feel. Put your mind to it and you will find yourself in a better place than you were. Stay mentally strong, healthy, and free of depression!

Roots of Pain

Sometimes you feel like you’re drowning in front of everyone but no one sees it. You feel despondent, depressed and crushed and your only dream is that you never wake up from your sleep the next morning. I know pain and it does not feel good. Pain swallows your power and will to survive in life sometimes. The hard truth is, you can never get past the pain that consumes you without dealing with its roots first.

Suffering abuse while young makes you feel broken for life. It leaves a mark that cannot be erased. The good thing is, you get to turn that brokenness into some sort of power. This power will help you to protect yourself from breaking others. There are many kinds of abuse. Enlightening you on some of the kinds of abuse will help you deal with your issues.

10 Types of Abuse

Physical Abuse

Domestic violence

Sexual abuse

Psychological abuse

Financial or material abuse

Morden slavery

Discriminatory abuse

Organizational abuse

Neglect

Self Neglect

What You Should Know

Research shows that a wide percentage of people all over the world suffer most of these types of abuse. They go through a series of events and happenings that affect them in many ways. Unfortunately, most people are not able to identify the root of their pain so they cannot address them. According to therapists, the best way to deal with a problem is to deal with the root cause of the problem.

My Story

My story of abuse surrounds psychological abuse, discriminatory abuse and neglect. Growing up I had people around me instilling so much fear in me due to constant domestic violence at the external family home from which I grew. I remember being locked in a room one for a while young. My screams and cry meant nothing. That feeling of helplessness alone is derailing enough to kill your soul. I had people shaming me because of the colour of my skin. For some reason, I was dark while young. It felt like nothing but my therapist tells me it broke something in me.

Neglect is my worst pain. Not being seen as enough for someone makes you feel like nothing. Because of my experience of neglect, I lived most of my life seeking validation from people. I had the impression that I was not worthy of a lot of things. I could not accept love from other people because I felt I was not worthy of it. I kept ending relationships because of this vulnerability and maybe some exes will read this and understand why besides their shitty attitudes.

Giving Yourself A Chance

Point is, I had a great turn in my life recently and I am proud of myself because I feel so much better now. This turn began as I was confronted with health issues. I realised that all I had was myself at the end of the day and I had to be there for myself. My state of mind and psychological health immensely improved when I adopted a lot of “me” times. My therapist once told me that it seemed I gave out so much love and received very little in return which was true. I decided to be selfish enough to love myself and to appreciate my existence more.

Stay Free

Riding yourself from the pain that is so deep into you is the hardest thing to do on earth, however, when you become free, it is extremely rewarding. My strength as a person comes from all my painful experiences and I hope this piece helps people to make bold decisions to be there for themselves and turn their painful experiences into their strength.