Losing Hope Is The Beginning Of Death

If you have given up on everything including yourself, I’d like to remind you that you cannot stop living while you’re still alive! For quite a while now, I have struggled to write anything at all. This is because my life has been a roller coaster of emotions recently. For some of us, life is an endless test, and I honestly feel like I have already died many times before my time. Have you ever believed in something so much that you wake up every night praying for it to work and you do everything right to get it but end up being utterly disappointed before? Well, most of us have experienced this multiple times and that feeling breaks something in us and it robs us of our ability to hope again.

I live in numb days, days where I don’t want to feel anything or expect anything. I have adopted a new mindset, to live in the present expecting nothing and hoping for nothing. After all, what is the point of investing so much faith into something that is most likely to fail? The heartbreak is not worth my endurance.

While hope is a beautiful thing, many of us today have given up on it because we are literally bleeding from disappointment and failure. We do not wish to believe in anything again because we are afraid to be disappointed. I’m certain that 6 out of 10 readers of this blog can relate, however, can we all try one last time to hope again?

I have had limited experience with feelings of pleasure but what I know is that the sensation of hope offers unimaginable pleasure. The fact that you believe so much in that job, that relationship, that person or circumstance and you see it all working before it actually even happens can be thrilling. But some people have felt the pain of being disappointed so many times that they can literally feel it physically which makes them unable to hope again. One thing we must know is that hope keeps us alive and losing it is the beginning of our death.

Finding your way back to new hope is the most difficult thing to do. People have worked so hard on relationships that have failed, people have applied for a job so many times and they are still unemployed, some people battle with chronic illnesses that are eating them alive, and many of these people live in despair because they have lost their hope and cannot find their way back to it.

My business with you that day is to encourage you to hope one last time. Try a new relationship, apply for a new job, start a new business, run some new tests on your health situation, and believe that something will work for you this time and it will. If you have trouble coming out of your pain to hope again, just be reminded, that diamonds don’t shine until they’re buried alive. Don’t die while you’re still alive by losing your hope!

While you keep your hope alive and live your life as happy as you should, be reminded that depression and suicidal thoughts have no power over you. Allow your new hope to guide your new visions. Let your dreams live on through you and fix yourself by fixing your attitude towards the new beginning in your life. Cheers to new hope and a fresh start because it is always okay to start all over again regardless of how far you had gotten to.

The Mothers Who Became Fathers

In a world of men, it takes strong women to do what men do. Raising a child without a father makes you both a mother and a father. Arguing from this perspective of such a sensitive issue seems fair to me because a large percentage of women all around the world are burdened with the responsibility of being mothers and fathers at the same it.

I have always believed that the ability to easily multitask is no less than a gift from God himself. Yet, multitasking as a mother and father is a hard role to play in life. However this begins should never be the focus because life is full of crazy patterns but I believe we as a younger generation must encourage women who do it all alone and by themselves.

Today, women are using medical interventions to conceive their offsprings with the vision of raising their children alone. Even though this is a brave thing to do in my books. I believe the weight of living a life without a father is too heavy to carry. Fathers are important and every child must experience them.

It is very unfortunate that some men neglect the role of becoming fathers, yet, this mess births strong, phenomenal women who are forced to turn the world upside down to see their children succeed. Mothers who have to play fathers in this lousy world deserve to be honored on days like this. These mothers have to pay for accommodating their kids, hospital bills, their education and everything there is to do for a child.

Single mothers do not have many choices in life. They have to be there for their children whether there is support or not. What is more heartbreaking is the stereotypes they have to put with in society. However, they do it all without complaining and sometimes they even shield their kids from their pain. Many single mothers have to pay for college tuition and they just make it happen!

Two out of five people who read this blog today will identify with the situation of not having their fathers in the picture. Whether they lost them to death, separation of parents, or whatsoever means, their mothers have had to become strong pillars and rise to the patriarchal standards to secure a place for their children in this world. Some of these mothers work up to about three jobs in a day just to make ends meet. Some also have to raise their kids alone while pursuing their dreams which is almost impossible.

Fathers are amazing, well my Daddy is amazing. And I believe that mothers who have become fathers are even more amazing. Giving mothers who raise their children alone due honor is something we should normalize and never take for granted. Every woman who has lived as both a mother and father to their child is special.

As we celebrate fathers today, we celebrate the mothers who have become fathers too and I hope every woman struggling to play both roles knows and understands that they are the real geniuses around here. If your mother has become a father too. Let them know that you see them and let them feel celebrated. Happy Father’s Day to the mother who has become a father as well!

“Sometimes I get so tired I just want to walk away and keep walking but I just can’t.”

Single Mom

Living Life and Not Surviving It

Half of our lives have been nothing but charades. I think deep, so deep, and I can’t help but understand how we are unfortunately surviving life instead of living it. I believe most of us live in the most vulnerable and depressing days of our lives. Research actually shows that people between the ages of 20 and 30 feel this way. The feeling of struggle with literally everything never leaves and I cannot help but ask, how can we fix ourselves? Have you ever woken up in the morning and you feel like, “I am a total failure”, “Nothing good can happen to me”, “What if the world would be a better place without me”? This is the kind of feeling I’m talking about. Most of the time, we have trouble being happy about anything. It was almost like we would be punished for feeling the slightest of joy.

News Flash

All of the feelings of brokenness and unworthiness were all in my head. I woke up every day finding ways of surviving life instead of living it. I am a realist, and even though many of you might find it quite hard to admit it, you wake up the everyday day of your life surviving instead of living the good beautiful life you have been offered. The thing that bothers me the most is how you may never have the opportunity to relive your experiences. For this reason, we are about to break that shitty cycle of pity bullshit and live our lives being happy and joyful always instead of surviving each day.

Finding Your Purpose

More than once I have asked myself this question. What am I really here for? I believe that finding your purpose as an individual is the most challenging task in life. In a world where many things seem displaced, how can anyone find their real purpose to make them productive? While I struggle to place my fingers on the reason why I get to live each day, I believe it would be wise to be practical about everything and find how to stop the cycle of life surviving by living my purpose.

Trusting Your Instincts

One thing I never dare to relinquish in my thoughts is the fact that the truth is always inside me. Not once or twice, we all have come to crossroads in life and it is in those moments that we find direction from the inside. Whatever you do, there is always that feeling inside you that tells you whether to keep on or not. I suggest that you trust that instinct. It is that part of you that can show you the real purpose of your life.

Listening To People

Whether we like it or not, we live in very interactive societies. Making it a point to listen to what people have got to say to you or about you helps you to pick up very helpful cues of your life’s purpose. Seeing yourself in other people’s eyes helps to shape your life entirely and it gives you the rare opportunity to find yourself. In these very teachable moments, you would be relieved of the burden of struggling to live your life.

The Right Company

If you are surviving life instead of living it, it has probably got everything to do with the kind of people you are surrounded by. Don’t get me wrong, you do not have to hate anybody. Only, you have to find people who will help you live a good life instead of surviving it. It is very unfortunate how sometimes, the company that causes you pain is family, however, it is definitely possible to break free from anything. Let’s get real. People who do not give you the necessary attention you need, support you with their resources, especially money, and give you a reason to be better in life have to be replaced. This is the only way you can find your purpose to live a good life instead of surviving it.

Exploring Your Interest

The best part of life is doing exactly what you want to do especially when it is ethically right. Being authentic with the things you want to do gives you the opportunity to harness a certain type of power that is rare to come by. Learn how to go forward with your interests. Explore potential resources and give yourself a chance to find what you love to do. As people live in the shadows of their real dreams and aspirations. It would be naturally priceless to be able to enjoy what you truly want to do in other to upgrade from surviving to a more comfortable living situation.

Using The Compass

Now that we have established how we can live life instead of surviving it. We obviously have loads of work to do. We cannot be the same people anymore which literally means that we have no excuse to wake up every day feeling the way to used to feel. As I part ways with you ta day. I wish to let out to you something to fail to comprehend about your own self -“You Do Matter!”

Wine and Man, A Perfect Pair

The quality of life can be measured by many things, I sometimes measure the quality of life by a cold glass of good wine. In my opinion, life is really hard and the world is mostly a sad place. For this reason, cherishing the very little things that soothe our painful experiences is imperative.

For decades, the best of wine has been known to be made in France, but in my view, wine made in Bordeaux embodies perfection. As tradition meets modernity, winemakers in Bordeaux, France have adopted spectacular techniques that they use in making the finest wines the world has ever known.

Choosing A Wine

How do you choose your wine? Or when you are choosing a wine, how do you go about it? What goes on in your mind during the process? From dry white wine to red wine, each bottle offers you a heavenly experience and that is the reason why it is important to select a bottle of wine carefully. Choosing a wine is like choosing a date from a dating site. Bordeaux presents a variety of wines that you can luxuriously choose from.

THE VINTAGES

The Bordeaux vintage wines offer exceptional taste and quality. For instance, each bottle of ‘De Lux’- Bordeaux (dry white) -2019 is made up of a combination of tested ingredients. It offers a zesty, lively comforting taste. This particular bottle has an attractive floral, citrus crisp with a dry finish to it. It is infused with the aromas of peaches, white flower, and lemon and a glass of such wine make all days better.

Vintage Wine Catalogue

Red

  • Château Le Bédat – 2018
  • Château Peuy Saincrit – 2016
  • Tesco Finest Modéc – 2018

White

  • Château Puyanché – 2016
  • Tesco Bordeaux Blanc – 2018
  • Dourthe “Terroirs d’Exception” Roqueblanche – 2019
  • Château Perron – 2019
  • Mouton Cadet Blanc- 2019

“To take wine into our mouths is to savor a droplet of the river of human history”.

Colours

  • Red
  • Rosé
  • Dry white
  • Sparkling
  • Sweet white

Red Varieties

  • Cabernet Sauvignon
  • Merlot
  • Petit Verdot
  • Malbec
  • Cabernet France

Aromas

  • Violet
  • Blackcurrant
  • Strawberry
  • White flower
  • Lemon
  • Peaches
  • Citrus
  • Hazelnut
  • Red currant
  • Raspberry

Tasting Profiles

  • Supple and Fruity
  • Powerful and intense
  • Fresh and Full
  • Sparkling and Fruity
  • Crisp and Fruity
  • Luscious and Intense
  • Mellow and Fruity

Most of these wines can last for about 5 years and more. If served under the perfect temperature, the quality of it is never displaced.


Source: Bordeaux.com

Youthful Fertility Awareness

When was the last time you went for a routine checkup to see if you’re healthy reproductively? Most people wish to have families of their own when they are ready, unfortunately, not all of these people can. For decades, we have lived under the illusion that it is easy to start a family, however, it is not easy to start a family these days. Besides the financial and physical constraints, the natural order of the human system has been altered in very negative ways and for that reason, it is quite difficult for such things as starting a family to happen naturally.

As young people, we have responsibilities to care for ourselves for the benefit of our future however, we, unfortunately, contribute fairly to our inability to start families when we are ready. The issue with this kind of situation is, we hardly admit to being our demons. One of the most important things that should motivate you as a person is that hypothetically, you do not own your life. Your future depends on everything you do today and you must stay conscious of your actions.

Fertility Defined

Fertility is the ability to conceive within six months to a year of being sexually active and Infertility is the direct opposite. Research shows that many young couples within the ages of 20-30 have difficulty starting families due to underlining issues of which some cannot simply be explained. While some young women suffer from several reproductive health issues, the young men swim in a wide range of health irregularities.

The fact that you are sexually active doesn’t guarantee that you are likely to be fertile. Some females ignorantly take tons of birth control medications that add to their already existing reproductive health issues or create very new ones for them. The funny thing is, they might not even be aware of the existence of health issues they might be having till the opportunity presents itself for them to start a family. According to studies, birth control medications have millions of adverse side effects on the female reproductive system of which most people turn a blind eye to. Others venture paths of the termination of fetuses which is popularly known as abortion. This is mostly accompanied by serious complications if not done professionally.

Taking Charge of The Situation

There are many things you can do as a young person to ensure that you do not miss your chance of starting a family in the future. As a young woman or man, it is medically wise to do routine checkups where scans and tests will be run to ensure that your body is ready for the kind of future you wish for. During these checkups, doctors recommend a lot of medications if necessary to help you take control of your situation or simply keep your body in a perfect state.

Some of the interventions a doctor may refer a young female patient who is threatened by a reproductive health issue to during a routine checkup includes hormonal therapy, egg freezing, education on In Vitro Fertilization, Surrogacy, Adoption among other interventions. All of these measures prepares you for the kind of future you wish for and offers you the opportunity to take control of your life. Male patients are also offered tons of interventions including sperm freezing for future use.

It is a real shame that in our side of the world, topics of this sort and passionately ignored. Nobody tells us anything until it hits us hard on the face. Today in this country, young couples are handling issues of miscarriages, low sperm count, fibroids, cysts, PCOS, Endometriosis, unexplained infertility among others in silence and with no support because there is literally no support system. Women suffer in silence because they find it shameful sharing their infertility stories when truly, there’s nothing shameful about it.

Creating fertility awareness among the youth is both important and exciting for me because we live in a day and age where infertility does not exist anymore per se. This is because medical innovations have made almost everything possible even though they might be pricey. Taking a moment to think about how you are preparing yourself is important. Living right and taking care of your body is the way to go if you want to take charge of your future. Investing in healthy components like body supplements that will be instrumental to your body will be a wise step to take today. It is my pleasure to introduce you to some of these supplements. Stay healthy and safe for your future!

The Future of Work

After the novel coronavirus pandemic

The novel Coronavirus pandemic has unleashed a series of unexpected events that have altered our lives and how society is conducted completely. Even though many organizations prepare for crises, most if not all organizations certainly failed to prepare for this challenging pandemic period. The loss of lives, property and livelihood has taken a heavy toll on political economies, organizations and individuals. As many organizations have gone out of operation completely, others struggle to keep their operations running. According to the US Chamber of Commerce 24% of small businesses have completely shut down in America alone and this is a major setback for the business sector. The biggest question to answer is, what is the future of work? Between the total and partial lockdown periods, many organizational leaders have navigated their organizations through the pandemic. A series of patterns studied shows that, many reputable organizations like Deloitte, Nike, Coco-Cola and other renowned organizations have adopted 3 phases to help withstand the pandemic. These are the most impressive crisis management techniques ever seen.

Respond

The first phase they adopted is to respond. Many businesses and institutions responded to the pandemic situation by making key decisions on health, safety, and the virtualization of work. This kind of response is the reason why some organizations are still operating. Most organizations quickly adopted safety measures like the provision of protective materials like nose masks to workers to keep them safe during the beginning of the pandemic. As the coronavirus escalated, companies closed and initiated the virtualization of work where social media platforms like zoom were greatly utilized for organizational meetings. This course of action helped organizations to manage the situation to ensure the continuity of their operations.

Recover

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “our greatest glory is not in never failing, by it rising every time we fail”.The recovery process was adopted by organizations to emerge stronger than they were before the pandemic hit the world like a bolt of lightning. Organizations reflected on the situations, they recommitted themselves to their missions, reengaged their stakeholders, thought their decisions and rebooted their operations. Even though no recovery process is easy, these steps helped organizations to reestablish themselves in this pandemic period.

Thrive

Since the coronavirus pandemic hit the world, there has been a great change in all activities. It is impressive how some organizations have prepared for and shaped the “new normal” to help them achieve their organizational goals. They have embraced new insights and capabilities with regards to social media and technology especially. Organizations that are thriving and plan to thrive in the future have adapted to new experiences, adjusted their goals, set new priorities and created new means of managing their operations through resilience.

What is The Future of Work?

The future of work after the coronavirus pandemic lies between three interconnected dimensions. These dimensions are the “work” which constitutes what an organization does, the “workforce” which encompasses who does the work and the “workplace” which is where the work is done. Analyzing these three dimensions answers the biggest question of what the future of work is.

The Work – What Can Be Automated?

Every organisation specializes in a particular area of service and the future of work demands that organisations quickly recognize the increasing automation of workplace activities. According to research, within the next 10 to 15 years, 80% of workplace activities will be completely automated and organisations must begin to identify which parts of their work can be automated for their benefit in the future.

The Workforce – Who Can Do The Work?

There are lots of technological advancements that companies must prepare for in the future and these advancements introduce new models for interaction between organisations, employees and their customers. For this reason, organisations must focus on recruiting employees who will be resourceful. Persons with extraordinary potential must be engaged to help fast track the achievement of organizational goals.

The Workplace – Where Can Work Be Done?

The future of work involves the combination of talent, workplace and technology. If there are any unintended results we have seen, it is the fact that the pandemic period has increased productivity immensely as we see the human potential at it’s best. Employees working remotely from home has forced the extension of working hours which has optimized productivity. Organizations must record these patterns to decide where work can be done best for their benefit in the future.

The Reality

The reality is that the coronavirus pandemic has escalated the future of work. However, the vision of all organizations should be directed towards the humanization of the future of work. Obviously, the vision of the future of work we have created is very different from the reality of the future of work where automation is highly engaged. A human approach to the future of work must be adopted. This means creating a human essential workplace in the future rather than focusing completely on technology and its impact. Organizations must direct resources in enhancing the capabilities of the workforce to suit the future of work.

What Can Be Done To Shape The Future of Work?

Organizations can start shaping the future of work by adopting a new mindset. Humanizing the future of work must be prioritized. This can be done by humanizing technology itself to unleash the potential in the workforce. Instead of isolating the workforce from technology, building capability access strategies that will foster the collaboration of both human and technology will help achieve results we have never seen. Organizations can evolve with dynamic stability to thrive in the future of work only if they build resilience and capitalize on their abilities after the pandemic.